As parents, we all want our children to feel safe and supported. But in today’s world, much of their interaction takes place online, where it’s harder to identify or prevent harmful behaviour like cyberbullying. Understanding what cyberbullying is, the forms it can take, and how to respond can help us protect our children’s mental and emotional well-being.
What is Cyberbullying?
Cyberbullying is a form of bullying that happens through digital platforms like social media, messaging apps, gaming communities, and other online channels. It involves using technology to harass, threaten, embarrass, or target someone in a hostile way. Unlike traditional bullying, cyberbullying can follow the victim wherever they go, as long as they are online, making it hard to escape.
Common Forms of Cyberbullying
Here are some common types of cyberbullying that children and teens may face:
1. Harassment: Repeatedly sending hurtful, threatening, or offensive messages.
2. Flaming: Engaging in online fights with abusive language.
3. Exclusion: Intentionally leaving someone out of online groups or social circles, which can cause feelings of isolation.
4. Impersonation: Pretending to be someone else online to post damaging or false information.
5. Outing: Sharing someone’s personal information, secrets, or embarrassing content without permission.
6. Doxing: Revealing private information, like a home address, with harmful intent.
7. Cyberstalking: Persistent online stalking, which may include harassment and threats, causing fear or distress.
The Effects of Cyberbullying
Cyberbullying can have serious and lasting effects on children and teens. Victims often experience anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and, in severe cases, thoughts of self-harm or suicide. The constant presence of digital devices makes it hard to escape from online harassment, amplifying the sense of isolation and helplessness. As parents, understanding these impacts can help us provide the right support for our children.
How to Respond to Cyberbullying
If you or your child is experiencing cyberbullying, here are some practical steps to take:
1. Do Not Engage: Avoid responding or retaliating, as this can often make the situation worse.
2. Document Evidence: Take video footage or screen recordings instead of just screenshots, as courts may require more concrete evidence. Always keep a record before blocking the person.
3. Report and Block: Use social media tools to report and block the person. Many platforms take these reports seriously and may remove harmful content.
4. Teach the “6 P’s” Rule: Encourage your child to consider if they’d want their post seen by the Police, Parents, Potential Universities/Employers, Predators, Principal, or Phishers. If not, it shouldn’t be online.
5. Think About Future Impact: Help your child understand that what they post now can affect future opportunities, like college admissions or job prospects.
6. Talk to Someone: Encourage open conversations with friends, family, or counsellors. Talking can provide comfort and help them process their feelings.
7. Report to Authorities: If the cyberbullying includes threats or criminal behaviour, contact local authorities or school officials for support.
Preventing Cyberbullying: Steps for Parents
Parents play a crucial role in preventing and addressing cyberbullying. Here are some proactive steps you can take:
1. Open Communication: Let your children know they can talk to you about anything, without fear or judgment.
2. Teach Boundaries and Kindness: Encourage respectful behaviour online and offline and discuss setting boundaries for who they interact with.
3. Empower with Online Safety Skills: Teach them to use privacy settings, block harmful users, and say no when needed.
4. Recognize the Signs: Be mindful of changes in your child’s behaviour, mood, or reluctance to use social media. Withdrawal or sudden mood shifts could be signs of cyberbullying.
Where to Report Cyberbullying in South Africa
If cyberbullying becomes serious or includes criminal behaviour, here are key resources in South Africa where you can report it and seek assistance:
1. South African Police Service (SAPS)
For threats, harassment, or behaviour that may be criminal, you can report directly to SAPS. Bring evidence like screenshots or chat logs when filing a report.
SAPS has specialised units, like the Family Violence, Child Protection, and Sexual Offenses (FCS) Unit, to handle cases involving minors or serious harassment.
Contact: Visit your nearest police station.
2. Film and Publication Board (FPB)
The FPB regulates online content and provides support for digital safety. You can report harmful or inappropriate content, especially if it involves media like images or videos.
Website: https://fpb.org.za/
3. Cybercrime Hub (Cybersecurity Hub)
Managed by the Department of Communications and Digital Technologies, the Cybersecurity Hub provides awareness and incident reporting for cybersecurity issues, including cyberbullying.
Website: https://www.cybersecurityhub.gov.za/
4. Childline South Africa
Childline offers support for children facing bullying or harassment, including cyberbullying. They provide a free, 24/7 helpline and counselling services.
Helpline: 0800 055 555
Website: https://www.childlinesa.org.za/
5. South African Human Rights Commission (SAHRC)
For cases involving discrimination, hate speech, or rights violations, you can file a complaint with the SAHRC, which investigates human rights abuses.
Phone: 011 877 3600
Website: https://www.sahrc.org.za/
These contacts provide immediate support and guidance for those affected by cyberbullying.